OMG, Stop Shoulding Yourself!
I remember being in nursing school back in….well, a long time ago, and having one specific teacher that rode my butt. I’d go to her asking questions all the time about my patients, the medication doses, proper wound care, you name it, I asked.
She finally looked me right in the eyes and said, “Stop! You keep shoulding yourself! You’ve got this!”
Ever since, I use the saying all the time.
Here are some words you may recognize:
- I should eat better.
- I should be a better mom.
- I should exercise more.
- I should watch less Netflix.
- I should be looking for a job.
- I should quit this job.
- I should volunteer more.
- I should save money.
- I should spend more time with my kids.
Geez…just writing that down is exhausting and frustrating. Where do those words come from and why are they harping on us?? Who says all of this to us?
There’s more meaning in that little word, ‘should’.
It’s called self-doubt.
It can be crippling. It can hold us back from our goals and dreams.
When it comes calling we have to dive into the real meaning behind the “should”.
Here are some reasons for the doubts:
- Not enough knowledge
- Past Mistakes
- People putting you down
- Our inner voice saying, “you can’t!”
- I’m just lucky
I began to recognize those words as being barriers to what I wanted to achieve. And I began to break down those barriers one at a time.
What do you do to combat that self-doubt and stop shoudling on yourself?
- Recognize and acknowledge your self-doubt.
- Analyze your self-doubt.
- Identify the source.
- Is there a pattern?
- Design a plan.
- Anticipate possible challenges.
- Take action.
For more details on specifics, go HERE.
You can even take it a step further and start writing out your GOALS and using a Vision Board. (Check out my previous post)
So, the next time you “should” on yourself, I ask you to find out where that barrier is coming from and break it down. It’s your life, and life is short.
You SHOULD be living it the way you want.